tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-36909395754178664422024-03-14T00:29:07.738-07:00Improving our family's health challengesMaddy Salhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15385595175228283001noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3690939575417866442.post-65748637655653493632023-10-29T07:52:00.022-07:002024-02-02T08:31:33.675-08:00My Healing Journey with Interstitial Cystitis<p><span style="font-family: arial;"><br />I first developed<b><i> Interstitial Cystitis</i></b> (IC) about 6 months after I had a traumatic event at work in 2008 (14 years ago). It was just urinary frequency at first but, as the years have passed, additional stresses have made it morph into more serious pain, problems with my bowel functions, UTIs, and nights where I need to get up to urinate between 10 and 20+ times. Sleep deprivation has been a serious side effect. The pain of urgency would often bring me to the bathroom but, my bladder was so swollen, I could not go pee. I think the urine was somewhere in the folds of the bladder causing pain but unable to get out. It was a no-win situation. But other than my bladder (and a swollen right foot) there was absolutely nothing wrong with me. All blood work was good, blood pressure </span><span style="font-family: arial;">perfect</span><span style="font-family: arial;">, etc. and I take no medications.<br /><br />I sought treatment with a urologist for several years in the beginning including an exploratory scope procedure which diagnosed the Interstitial Cystitis. She finally said to me, "I think the next step is to have your bladder removed." At that point, I thought I may as well seek alternative methods to treat this – with bladder removal to be my last resort. I haven't seen her since.<br /><br />I learned a lot from the effort to help our kids. In a way, it became instrumental in improving all of our health, as we got older. About 5 years ago, I read the Medical Medium's first book, "<i>Medical Medium: Secrets Behind Chronic and Mystery Illnesses and How to Finally Heal"</i></span></p><table cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="float: right;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhLV-WIPsMNPOB05y1yKPRcDBMr3W8xQSIDtjOE1R9LOVM6IgzJG104INdaLK_bZrLLj8TTAavh3vXlSMZmxaZ5IcmLYX07WQCNcdPlN_t5x2v0QTowyolffQ0Z-UWX5yYbJ4YiyyEuDQ7jH8U4t7LxRrFwUvyWukWKmkIVASEYg9_MJPhNq66X8BIKK5f-/s4032/IMG_0978.jpeg" style="clear: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4032" data-original-width="3024" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhLV-WIPsMNPOB05y1yKPRcDBMr3W8xQSIDtjOE1R9LOVM6IgzJG104INdaLK_bZrLLj8TTAavh3vXlSMZmxaZ5IcmLYX07WQCNcdPlN_t5x2v0QTowyolffQ0Z-UWX5yYbJ4YiyyEuDQ7jH8U4t7LxRrFwUvyWukWKmkIVASEYg9_MJPhNq66X8BIKK5f-/w150-h200/IMG_0978.jpeg" width="150" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"><span style="font-size: xx-small;">Celery from the Farmer's Market</span><br /></td></tr></tbody></table><p><span style="font-family: arial;">and this book <u><i>completely blew me away</i></u>. It is SO DIFFERENT than anything I have ever read that is health-related. So many "Ah-ha!" moments when reading that book, it completely made sense! After reading it, I used his 28 day cleanse at the end of the book. At the end of the cleanse, my IC completely went away. Then, stupidly, I immediately went back to my regular diet, drinking coffee, etc. and, within 2 weeks, my IC had completely returned. I have tried to repeat that cleanse and its results but have never been successful.<br /><br />In 2023, I had a stressful spring and my IC became much worse again (up urinating 20+ times a night). Also, the swelling in my lower right leg which I have had for several years was getting worse with my toes becoming numb. Clearly, my general health was declining and I needed to do something.<br /><br />I began exploring the impact on my life if I did have my bladder removed. I found that it would be major surgery since the bladder is located behind the intestines and bowels so the surgeon would have to remove all that first, take out the bladder, then put the intestines back, cut out a piece of the intestine, sew it back up, and use that piece to create a stoma or tube into my midsection to evacuate the urine into a bag which would be permanently kept there. So many parts of that surgery to go wrong and what a challenge to live with the outcome. I considered what else I could do.<br /><br />As Anthony William (MM) has described in his book for other situations, I believe that a virus used the stressful events in my life to attack and thrive in my bladder. I had shingles when I was 42 years old and believe I also have the Epstein Barr Virus from my vaccinations. I decided to go back to the <i>Medical Medium </i>book and stick to more of his protocols. It had worked once, maybe it would work again. I began on October 1, 2023:<br /><br /><b>Week 1</b>: I bought the Medical Medium's new, expanded first book which I began reading. I already eat a vegan, gluten-free, low fat diet but tried to also eliminate corn, oil and began drinking an 8 oz glass of celery juice and 8 oz glass of detox smoothie in both the morning and afternoons. I started this on October 1. By three days later, I was in SO MUCH pain after I drank the celery juice but learned to always drink 8 oz of water 30 minutes after the celery juice and it would not be as severe and also after the smoothie. But within the first week I could feel some of my symptoms shifting which gave me hope. I could sleep laying down for longer periods. Walking was difficult and I still had pain in the evenings but the whole project seemed doable so I kept it up. In about a week, I could tell that my bladder was less swollen because I could urinate a larger amount. I spent less time sitting on the toilet in pain trying unsuccessfully to urinate. Bowel movements were much more consistent and I my intestines were working better. On day 7, I slept the night getting up no more than 9 times which was a first in at least several months. That first week was very painful and I missed some work just trying to get through it.<br /><br />For this first week, my schedule looked like this:<br />Upon waking, drink 1 8 oz. glass of lemon water<br />At least 30 min later, 8 oz. celery juice<br />At least 30 min later, 8 oz. water w/ zinc<br />At least 30 min later, 8 oz of detox smoothie<br />At least 30 min later, 8 oz. water w/ zinc<br />Lunch, usually salad that is gf and vegan.<br />At least 30 min later, 8 oz. celery juice<br />At least 30 min later, 8 oz. water w/ zinc<br />At least 30 min later, 8 oz of detox smoothie<br />At least 30 min later, 8 oz. water w/ zinc</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"><i>(Later I changed it to 16 oz celery juice in the am. None in the pm.)</i></span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">Dinner.<br />Evening: snacks including 1 fruit.<br />I should say that I was not good about eating the healing foods at meals that MM offer. I had the spinach soup twice (and I liked it) but the problem is that I cook for a family of four and I don't often have the energy to cook a separate meal for myself and I don't think they would be happy with the MM meals. Instead, I stayed away from sweets, the foods that MM says feed virus (gluten, corn, soy) stay low on oil, no caffeine or alcohol.<br /><br /><b>Week 2:</b> The pain was much less (mostly in the morning) and I bought several bunches of celery at the Farmer's Market so it was fresh, dark green, and very potent juice. It is cool in Wisconsin in October so I could keep it outside on my shady back steps sitting in a little tub of water. I had pretty good energy and was only inconvenienced by urgency in the morning. I juiced in the morning and drank (increased to 16 oz) all of it at that time. I drink a glass of water 30 min after. Then, in an another 30 min, I drink the first detox smoothie. The second smoothie is taken in the afternoon. Sleeping was getting better and I was up less often. I know MM suggests we drink 32 oz of celery juice in the morning but I honestly can't do that. I am only 122 lbs and don't have room for all that and the detox smoothie in my stomach.<br /><br /><b>Week 3 & 4:</b> More great celery from the Farmer's Market. Same schedule as above and although I had a lot of urgency after I drank the celery juice – the evenings and walking were less painful. I felt good and I wasn't up a lot during the night. I noticed that the swelling in my right leg has reduced and I can feel my toes again.<br /><br /><b>Oct. 27 (week 4)</b> was my birthday (turned 74) so I took the day off the juicing and smoothie. I had a glass of water upon waking, a small cup of black tea and a gf biscotti at 10 am. & 3 pm (my birthday splurge), a salad for lunch, and a gf vegan pizza for dinner. At night I was up only 6 times. It was amazing! </span></p><p></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"></span></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><span style="font-family: arial;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg-lxNsPO8mgiiyLLXAQFu25hyphenhyphen7M_IfR6qOrnMrS581G_tvtQ_7QSKCiP5AZ0PjnS-59ZOX-Wsl3ApyhGhDXLY0Pyo7h2J-PPqVpchBjiqpDZiwqsZbhj0ZjFhM9wP_t2-bHsQ6fznwp4_MZ_xp9OHdfU-oaxhpcrKFTuA8QLzmAYikqtWGcEyqijhr39DD/s705/Sally%20small%202022.jpg" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="705" data-original-width="600" height="170" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEg-lxNsPO8mgiiyLLXAQFu25hyphenhyphen7M_IfR6qOrnMrS581G_tvtQ_7QSKCiP5AZ0PjnS-59ZOX-Wsl3ApyhGhDXLY0Pyo7h2J-PPqVpchBjiqpDZiwqsZbhj0ZjFhM9wP_t2-bHsQ6fznwp4_MZ_xp9OHdfU-oaxhpcrKFTuA8QLzmAYikqtWGcEyqijhr39DD/w144-h170/Sally%20small%202022.jpg" width="144" /></a></span></div><p><span style="font-family: arial;">I</span><span style="font-family: arial;"> felt like a normal person, urinating only a few times during the day. I was shocked to find I had come so far in just one month! It made me wonder how important it was that I was able to buy fresh celery from the Farmer's Market? Would my progress have taken longer without it?<br /><br /><b>Nov. 1:</b> But I knew this progress wouldn't last because life's stresses would strengthen the viruses again and the IC would be worse again. So the next day I was back to the celery juice – smoothie routine and I am assuming I will need to do this for at least six months to a year. A small price to pay to get this debilitating condition out of my life. But I am very encouraged and feel so much better already in only one month!</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"><b> Dec. 10:</b> In November, I could see myself sliding down again so I was going to need to use the rest of the MM protocol: eat only high vitamin foods; avoid oil, corn, gluten, soy; and avoid the 'filler' foods the best I can. This is a pic of my lunches and dinners now: a salad variation of spinach, onion, peppers, lettuce, asparagus (raw), sprouts, carrots, fresh basil, mint, dill,etc. – all put in the Cuisinart and chopped finely along with lime juice, 1 t. maple syrup, 1 t. ground mustard. In addition, I chopped one potato (w. skin) and some herbs and cooked then mashed it. Both with no oil, nuts, seeds, or avocado. I put it in the Cuisinart for 3 reasons: 1) it wouldn't be so much to chew for me, 2) I can eat a lot more of it this way and 3) creating it was faster than cutting stuff in smaller pieces. (I would also make dinner for my family – a separate dish as they did not want to eat my food.) This chopped salad and potato was surprisingly good tasting and filling – and fast. For a snack I would have a cup of tea and fresh dates with raw nuts (away from my meals). I lost 2 lbs the first week on this and was urinating at night about 7-8 times.<br /></span></p><p></p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEijbDFg61yG-aPTBIjheCtrzyaSJgZhwg0M2Dua2job4r5Btel6SnfkQw-wgYtiY6VRa6m86NE613OwLITM6nqNamYcQkpG2XTT7FK12f80DYF58517hih5Cu91p7CMBwaFqMYLgydiLu-e0vYYrHHQYxkcFZ0brUt9GvRX6EsH8wARQEI0cYPKazTvsmRE/s4032/IMG_1091.HEIC" style="clear: right; float: right; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-left: 1em;"><img border="0" data-original-height="4032" data-original-width="3024" height="270" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEijbDFg61yG-aPTBIjheCtrzyaSJgZhwg0M2Dua2job4r5Btel6SnfkQw-wgYtiY6VRa6m86NE613OwLITM6nqNamYcQkpG2XTT7FK12f80DYF58517hih5Cu91p7CMBwaFqMYLgydiLu-e0vYYrHHQYxkcFZ0brUt9GvRX6EsH8wARQEI0cYPKazTvsmRE/w202-h270/IMG_1091.HEIC" width="202" /></a></div><span style="font-family: arial;"></span><p></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">This seemed to be working well for me and I could see progress until I added some Vimergy products: Vit. D3, zinc, ashwagandha. Who would think this would be a problem but it is the third time that Vimergy products have stopped my MM progress! I wish I had an idea of why that is! So I stopped that and am trying to get back the gains I made before I used them. Very frustrating and expensive!</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"><b>Jan. 7, 2024: </b>I am 5 lbs down and doing fairly well. Daily, I still have:</span></p><ul style="text-align: left;"><li><span style="font-family: arial;"> 1 8 oz. lemon water upon waking<br /></span></li><li><span style="font-family: arial;"> 2 8 oz. of celery juice <br /></span></li><li><span style="font-family: arial;"> 1 8 oz. lemon water</span></li><li><span style="font-family: arial;">1 8 oz. detox smoothie </span></li><li><span style="font-family: arial;"><b>Lunch:</b> chopped veggies w/o oil as above, sometimes with some potato or beans</span></li><li><span style="font-family: arial;"><b>Tea time:</b> tea with 6 dates & raw nuts <br /></span></li><li><span style="font-family: arial;"><b>Dinner:</b> same as lunch.</span></li><li><span style="font-family: arial;"><b>Evening snack:</b> </span><span style="font-family: arial;">tea with 6 dates & raw nuts </span></li></ul><p><span style="font-family: arial;">I am occasionally off this lifestyle when we eat out or have guests. I eat salads whenever I can at those times. I am up about 7 times a night now and in very little pain. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">Problems arise when I get stressed which happened recently when I was serving dinner for some family members. I shouldn't have let it stress me but it did and I could tell that my bladder urgency became worse again in about 3 days. So frustrating!</span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;"><b>Feb. 2, 2024:</b> My frequency is still too often (every 30-45 min.) in the morning when I am juicing, etc. (On days I cannot juice, I am completely constipated.) I try to eat salads mostly at lunch and other plant-based foods (as oil free as possible) in evenings. Somehow, this isn't enough to heal my IC and I need to get back to the salad/potato habit above. </span></p><p><span style="font-family: arial;">On Feb. 23, I am going to Texas for 4 days with a girlfriend and am afraid of the stress that goes with traveling making my IC worse. So I am trying to improve my IC before then so I can have a restful trip.<br /></span></p><div><p><span style="font-family: arial;"> </span></p><p></p></div>Maddy Salhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15385595175228283001noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3690939575417866442.post-38334365048753371362017-03-09T18:09:00.002-08:002017-03-09T18:09:33.508-08:00Advice to Parents in Working with a Biomedical ProgramAt one point, our kids were taking handfuls of supplements at a time. It wasn't fun but remember, none of this treatment is for forever. My son takes no supplements or meds now except B12 (because he is vegan) and he has no depression.<br /><br />The various diets, gfcf, SCD, and others were as helpful in telling us what we didn’t need to avoid as what was bothering him. So, try the diets without the burden that you will be on them forever. Your child will evolve and what he/she is doing now will not be what they will be doing 2 yrs from now – it will change a lot. Help them to understand that you are doing all this to help them and enlist their support. Let them know this is a team effort. (We had a family meeting that my husband and I planned ahead of time.) It makes a big difference when they know we are working for them and it gives them hope for change (like us).<br /><br />One of the best products that we used was a supplement made by Melaleuca called
ProvexCV for high blood pressure made from grape seed extract. It is a strong anti-inflammatory and it greatly relieved John’s depression which we eventually learned was inflammation related. It takes 2 weeks for it to work, though. (It is about $30+shipping for a month’s supply; one has to be member of the company to buy from them.)<br /><br />Also, go to the the website for the non-profit, Institute for Responsible Technology, and learn about GMOs from them. Even universities are endowed by Monsanto and their ilk now so it is very hard to figure out which studies are reliable anymore. Try to eat foods that are not sprayed with Round Up. It is a piece of the puzzle for our kids and for us. <br /><br />Go to a conference. They really psyched me up and gave me hope. Autism One (on Memorial Day weekend) is the best and it is now cheap. (used to cost hundreds of $) You can share a room with others if you know of others that are going. I went every year for awhile and even brought my own food so I didn’t spend much. I never stood in line for coffee or rode on an elevator without striking up a conversation with others there. Someone told me, “You will learn as much from other parents here as from the speakers.” That was so true. If something was working for their child, I wanted to consider it.<br /><br />I joined some yahoo groups that were very active in the biomedical treatments and I learned a TON from those folks.<br /><br />Sometimes I just got worn out and mentally checked out for a few months. That is okay. We need to survive. Then I would go to a conference and come home with a few new ideas to try and enthusiasm to go at it again.<br /><br />Our kids don’t have a mental problem. They are physically sick so their reflexes are not integrating like a normal kid. The biomedical helped John feel better and MNRI helped him get caught up cognitively by integrating his reflexes.<br /><br />We are not completely done with the biomedical but we have come a long, long way. John is SO MUCH happier and more functional than he was and our goal is to make him able to go to school or hold a job by the time he is 30 (3 yrs.) and I think we will make it. It is good to have a goal.<br /><br />I was the ‘point man’ and did all the reading and was willing to try almost ANYTHING. My husband is a little more cynical of the various protocols and that made him a bad choice to work on this. But he just supported whatever I wanted to try and that made us a good team. The point man has to be someone who can believe in miracles and not feel bad if you waste some $ and something doesn’t work. The point man needs to be someone who is a little tenacious and bold. We learned something each time we tried a supplement, foot bath, etc. and moved on.<br /><br />I now look at the families that I know who never even tried the biomedical and I feel so sorry for them. Sure, it cost us money but having an adult child with autism is expensive, also. Plus, one of the benefits of what I learned over the years is that now our whole family is healthier than most. We know a lot of secrets to staying healthy.<br /><br />sallyMaddy Salhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15385595175228283001noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3690939575417866442.post-59186492410913221522016-07-16T22:14:00.004-07:002023-10-31T15:01:44.194-07:00Summer, 2016 and we are doing wellWell, the Masgutova Neurosensory-motor Reflex Integration (MNRI) is what John needed. We also found that we needed to disconnect him from the computer/TVs. He is now in bed by 10ish and up by 5:30ish (his choice). At 8 am. the computer/TVs are off and I make out a list for him to do. If the list is completed at 5 pm, he can have access to the computer. Nowadays, he reads news in the AM and watches Netflix in the evening. He gets so much done now each day that I have offered him an allowance of $20 weekly. He cleans toilets, scrub floors, mows grass, fixes bed, etc. It isn't always done well but he is getting better all the time.<br />
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The system is working well. The MNRI is really helping him get his body and mind functioning better. It is hard to explain how it works but it is quite amazing. The body's reflexes are like the software system of the body whereas the bones, muscle and tissue are the hardware. MNRI has the capacity to make almost anyone function better: brain injury, autism, cerebral palsy, genetic disorders, etc. MNRI will help them use their body better and become actually cognitively smarter. A few years ago I thought that was impossible.<br />
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Four years ago John had very limited knowledge. He knew this somehow but didn't know what to do about it. MNRI slowly but steadily gave him more use of his brain power and, because he wasn't on the computer any longer during the day, he got bored. Nothing to do. So then he started ordering books: <i>Palestine: Peace or Apartheid</i> by Jimmy Carter; <i>Saudia Arabia</i> by (US author); <i>The History of Afghanistan from 1830-1850</i> by xx. Yes, my son, John has become quite knowledgeable in middle eastern affairs. He has a list of books and has a goal of seeing how many he can read in a year. He reads<i> Time </i>magazine every week from cover to cover. Without MNRI this would never have happened.<br />
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The next step is getting a job. He is 26 and has a spotty job resume. He got a job at Subway last Feb. and he was fired on the first day for not being able to do it fast enough. So we have doubled up on the therapy for him and our goals in 2017: getting employed and getting a driver's license.<br />
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But John still has significant deficits. When gardening, I can ask John to fill a hole with dirt and he will likely fill the wrong hole (even after I showed him the right hole). He is learning to deadhead flowers but it will be awhile before he can do it. He can't remember more than 1 instruction at a time and they need to be extremely simple. He doesn't handle redirection or constructive criticism well. He is very defensive. All these things make him very marginally employable.<br />
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John has a garden now and takes it very seriously. He waters, weeds it almost daily. He post pictures of it on Facebook. He picks and cooks the vegetables. He is becoming a pretty good gardener.<br />
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John's personality is emerging. One day he said, "I like garlic." Then we learned that he likes politics and geography. Then I suggested he might be interested in a garden of his own (at a community garden location) and he totally took control of it. I had no idea of these interests 5 years ago. People would say, "What is John good at?" and I couldn't think of anything. Now, there are many things. I realize that we are have a fighting chance at life if we keep our diet clean, stay away from toxins in our lives, and continue to be disciplined, and work at it in this way. I envision John taking the Master Gardener classes next year. I think he will be working (possibly through the <span class="st">Division of Vocational Rehabilitation)</span> and have some friends in 2017. I believe he will be self-supporting some day but I don't know at what degree. He is actually happy now but I think he has the capacity to be independent in the future, too. He still occasionally becomes 'down' about his life and future and it is hard to bring him out of it. I really can't blame him as I see people with a lot fewer challenges than his get depressed.<br />
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But I believe in the power of synergy so we are working on other fronts,
as well. We recently used an IonCleanse detox foot bath twice daily for almost 4 months but saw no results. I finally sold it for $1,000 which was half its cost.<br />
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Part of my plan is to keep us all very healthy so my husband and I will be around for our kids as they mature. So my interest in diet and health (as a result of researching the biomedical protocol) has resulted in changing our diet. I am now vegan and cook vegan everyday. Our health has definitely improved, especially compared with others, so that plan is working.Maddy Salhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15385595175228283001noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3690939575417866442.post-90855006032818434492015-11-09T21:08:00.001-08:002023-11-02T07:38:27.626-07:00Where we are in late 2015In June of 2015 I took John to Poland for a week of MNRI and 4 days of fun in Greece. It was awesome. He really benefited from the MNRI partly because the Polish Specialists have been doing it so long and are really exceptional but also because he was abroad and has been very interested in world events in Europe and the middle east. He reads about and is interested in world politics, so it was a natural extension of his interests. I think he also felt a little less like "poor me, I have had such a crappy childhood with autism" and more like "hey, I'm finally doing something in my life like other young people." Some of his friends have been abroad and he can now talk about his experiences, too.<br />
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Not long after he came back from Europe, he started buying and reading books on middle east and that part of the world. He started with Jimmy Carter's book on Palestine which he got for about $4. When he finished that, he ordered the new book on Saudia Arabia that is on the best sellers list. Now he is reading a book on Afghanistan. This is certainly progress by any measure.<br />
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I had taken my daughter to Poland for the 2 week MNRI camp the year before (2014) and found that it is inexpensive enough that, even with airfare, it costs about the same as getting treatment in the U.S. And, if the child is a young adult who would like to travel, all the more reason.<br />
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During Svetlana's Assessment of my daughter, she really enlightened us about her seizures. She recognized that she is struggling to process information and said that she "needs lots of sleep to function well." She also connected her eye-rolling tic to her seizures which are especially manifest in her ocular nerves in her left eye. She warned against TV and computer screens and the flickering lights, even seen with driving.<br />
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Sure enough, after 1 day of MNRI, her eye rolling went away. Unfortunately, after my daughter began watching computer screens again, it came back. I learned on that trip that she has a addiction to computer/TV/iPhone screens. (She is not alone; I think it is rampant in our society.)<br />
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John also needed his computer/TV time restricted. Svetlana pointed out that he was not benefiting from treatment as well as he should because he needed to use his reflexes to allow them to develop more; hard to do when one is immobilized (physically and mentally) in front of a screen.<br />
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As part of John's Home Program, we do the active Archetypes every day (10 minutes) and I work on his hands and feet reflexes for another half hour. He is looking for a job and his life continues move forward. He still hopes to attend college and I think he will.<br />
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A big part of our challenge is also paying attention to food. I believe that gmo foods, food additives, and Round Up and other chemicals in our foods are damaging our stomachs and causing all kinds of havoc in our brains, from autism to bipolar disorder. It is hard for kids to stay away from that stuff when it is ubiquitous.Maddy Salhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15385595175228283001noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3690939575417866442.post-6719730344372369672011-12-25T14:25:00.000-08:002015-11-09T21:34:21.035-08:00Masgutova Method<div style="font-family: Arial,Helvetica,sans-serif;">
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I admit that I am impatient; my kids are older and life is starting for them and they are being left behind. I feel I have no time to waste getting them operating normally as their peers do. A Masgutova Method conference costs $5,000 and I took my son John to it in Minneapolis. I spoke with Svetlana one day at lunch and she learned that I was a graphic artist and she knew she needed one. (I could tell she needed one, too.) I can also write and edit which is a big help to her since she doesn't speak English as well as the rest of us. I have to say that now I have worked for her for almost 2 years and she is one the most gracious, loving persons I have ever known. Not to mention brilliant.</div>
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I also bring John to see a Core Specialist in Madison, WI (Peg J.). She is really wonderful and I feel so lucky that she would take us on as a client. We have noticed for years that John has suffered from poor large and small motor control, feet that turn in and are painful, and poor cognition. Could early toxins have caused his reflexes to not develop from the inborn primary reflexes into more advanced ones and caused some of these issues?</div>
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During this first session, Peg saw so many reflexes that John needed changing that she had a hard time restricting herself to a few. We started working on the Spinal Perez, Galant, Grasping, STNR, and ATNR reflexes. We do them daily at home (a challenge) and with Peg weekly. While doing them, it does not seem like anything could possibly come from it, but it does. The Archetype Reflexes from the DVD sure gives our spine a workout.</div>
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The first thing we have noticed is that John's feet stopped hurting when he stood and ran. He had been given inserts for his shoes by a podiatrist but his feet still hurt until he had the Masgutova therapy. We now see changes in his hands. There were many things he could not do with the immature reflexes in his hands: write well, cook, use utensils well, etc. I am also interested in the cognitive changes that come, too. His torso is locked up and Peg believes that until we get that working, his hands may not come. John was severely depressed for a long time and then, even after that, he seemed to have no self love. He could not imagine why someone could even like him. No amount of praise seemed to make a difference. But after the second MNRI conference, that just disappeared. Was amazing. The thing about MNRI is that it does take years to see improvement or at least a lot of doing the therapy. It can be done be a parent or a therapist but it just does need to be done. They are happy to train us but we just need to take the time. The conferences are intensive and, as a result, have a big and quick impact.</div>
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What I have found from our long and expensive 8 year path is that there has not been one thing to be the magic bullet to healing my kids. There have been many, many small caliber bullets but, when put all together, have made a big difference. In fact, they have made ALL the difference. A big piece was been the supplements. The Masgutova Method is proving to be another big impact, and one that is really changing John cognitively. <br />
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The one important bullet that I hope to receive from Masgutova is getting rid of Les' seizures. I talked specifically to Svetlana about that and she said, almost with surprise, "Oh, that is one of the things that it does best!" Pretty amazing. Everyday it seems that something that I thought we would have to endure and live with for our entire life, is actually treatable—and without medication! I believe the ticket for Leslie will be a combination of the Healing Code and MNRI. I will take her to a 11 day conference in Poland this June, 2014.<u><br /></u><br />
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Maddy Salhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15385595175228283001noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3690939575417866442.post-2116093948711288212011-10-12T20:45:00.001-07:002023-11-02T07:39:57.132-07:00The new world of vitamins<span style="font-family: inherit; font-size: medium;"><span>We found far better quality and less expensive source of vitamins with Melaleuca than what we were using. When I began using them, we could tell a difference in how I felt on the very first day of taking them. <span style="font-family: inherit;">Previously, we</span> <span style="font-family: inherit;">took</span> specific vitamins for each need: vitamin C, zinc, etc. but these are a blend which I generally try to avoid but they work so much better that it is very worth it. John takes the 'Vitality 6' which includes their "Heart Health" product which has a strong anti-inflammatory. We have found that it very effectively keeps his depression at bay—better than the Repair Gold enzymes (which cost $240 per month) we used for years. The savings is very substantial; we save at least $200 per month on vitamins <span style="font-family: inherit;">and</span> they work better<span style="font-family: inherit;">.</span> </span></span><span style="font-size: medium;"><br /></span>
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When John was in elementary school, he was pulled out of his classroom and was taught with other Learning Disabled kids for his first 4 years; after that he was included in the classroom. I believe their policy changed. He needed guidance to know what he should be doing, where to find things, and how to do his work but he was not a disturbance in any way. He was quiet as a church mouse. Les, with her ADD, had a hard time staying on task, keeping quiet, and getting here work done. She did not have an IEP until she was in 8th grade although she probably should have had one earlier.<br />
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The schools are pretty good, in general. John's 3rd grade class was not good because it had a very difficult mix of kids and the teacher had a hard time controlling them. He was also being bullied by Jacob. (I even tried to threaten Jacob to stay away from John without success; the teacher seemed helpless and overwhelmed although she was an excellent teacher.) John had services for occupational therapy and physical therapy (vision therapy would have been really good!) but after awhile it seemed questionable whether he was helped being pulled out of the classroom for these services when he really needed to be in class to tell what was happening. But most of the Madison teachers we knew and all the therapists were caring, interested people who wanted to help our kids.<br />
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Middle School was okay. I actually think that the people who home school their kids during these years might have the best alternative. It was not an option for us. Just surviving the middle school years is a realistic goal.<br />
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Memorial High School was good for both Les and John. It is a large school with a soulmate for almost any one. They have staff who care about the kids and know how hard it is for them. Both kids were in LD classes with others who they did not always feel were their peers. John and Les could not do the quality of work they wanted to do. But for the most part, they were not in classes with achievers because they could not achieve well themselves. They were in limbo to some extent. John spent his lunch hours sitting at a table by himself, year after year. He didn't fit in with the LD kids or the achievers and, worst of all, even with SSRIs, he was horribly depressed. We didn't get his depression under control until he was a senior.<br />
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However, after realizing that the good old AMA damaged my kids, first, with their vaccination schedule, then with antibiotics (messing up their gut), then tried unsuccessfully to suppress their symptoms with SSRIs, I have learned to ignore the AMA. They have their own end and, more and more, that end seems to be to promote big pharma—at our expense. <br />
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One of the treatments with the biomedical protocol has been to supplement heavily. Our kid's intestines (and often other organs) aren't working properly so supplementation is one thing that helps. We give higher (than normal) doses of supplements because, firstly, not as much nutrients gets metabolized as with other kids, and secondly, that seems to be what is needed to get the desired effect.<br />
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My kids take cod liver oil, Vit. C (2 types), magnesium, Lugol's iodine, digestive enzymes, specific target enzymes, zinc, Neem Plus, and now, a new product called Brain Vibrance (BV) by VRP. (Dropped the Brain Vibrance.) We'll see how it goes. Unfortunately, it is all a big experiment with our kids hanging in the balance. They take a handful of supplements, morning and night; not ideal but it does help and that is what is important.<br />
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I am cutting back on our vision therapy for Les. I think her vision has improved enough, even if it hasn't gotten up to the optimal level. John is still getting vision therapy and it is helping him hugely. He has farther to go than Les did.<br />
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At least Les can read better; now to help her think about what she is reading.Maddy Salhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15385595175228283001noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3690939575417866442.post-69282152498660241512010-09-23T17:32:00.000-07:002012-06-15T21:10:16.305-07:00Vision therapyOne of the areas that costs a lot but helped, especially for John, was Vision Therapy.<br />
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Leslie could not read well and John just was not able to see many things. For example, if you asked him to go into a room and find a red ball that was clearly visible, he probably could not have done that. After his evaluation, we were told that his major problems were a narrow field of vision (little peripheral vision), poor depth perception, and poor eye tracking.<br />
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Initially, both kids had a form of light therapy where they had to look at a green or amber light in a dark room for about 20 minutes. Then Leslie was given eye exercises which helped her eyes track better and, as a result, her ability to read improved.<br />
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John did <i>only</i> light therapy for 6 weeks, then started the eye exercises. We really started seeing improvement fast when he began the exercises. He used to shave and come out of the bathroom with blood all over his neck and face but now, amazingly, he can shave without a nick. He is handwriting has changed, became more legible (less of a scrawl) and he can write on a line now. He can now do simple things—like raking leaves or vacuuming better. He reports that he is much better at video games now—he thinks it is the tracking; he could not find his adversary easily before. He says it is much easier to cross a street now; before he had to really concentrate (understandably). I notice that he is not as awkward probably because he can see where is body is in relation to his environment.<br />
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The down side of vision therapy is that each week we go in for evaluation/therapy, it costs $132 per kid. That's $528 per month because I can only afford to go in every other week.<br />
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After 5 months of Vision Therapy: John had a progress reading test to in his reading class at MATC. His teacher was amazed! He had gone up four reading levels! She said he was the star of his class as no one had improved that much. Leslie and John both did daily vision therapy at home for about 6 months.Maddy Salhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15385595175228283001noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3690939575417866442.post-2766905401957385872010-09-19T18:24:00.001-07:002023-11-02T07:48:49.770-07:00Good days, bad daysFive years later, John was about 70% recovered. Some days I wondered how accurate that guesstimate is but usually it seemed to be true.<br />
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Variations in his life, school, really made him anxious, partly because he had to struggle so. He so much wanted to do well; his parents are educated and he had all the values that go with it but learning eluded him. It was a big frustration which is understandable. So cognition improvement was high on our list of needs for him.<br />
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His sister was doing better, too. She seemed to find exercise hard to do, had little energy, was cold easily--especially her hands and feet. But fours years after we have started the biomedical protocol, she finds exercise easier to do and was now enjoying her PE class as a high school senior.<br />
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Both John and Les took substantial amounts of supplements, at this time, as part of their therapy. The supplements have made a big difference in their functioning. Iodine (Lugol's) has helped Les' thyroid, zinc has helped them both become healthier as they can generate new cells easier now, and probiotics have helped the functioning of their intestines. Specific enzymes (Repair Gold by Enzymedica) target inflammation and have tremendously reduced John's horrible depression and he is now off all medications. Our daughter still takes medication for seizures and still is not quite where she should be cognitively. Otherwise, she is an exceptionally fun, empathetic, and lovely girl with few mood swings.<br />
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We also spent $14,000 on Hyperbaric Treatments with the facility in Fitchburg (Madison). It helped John's chronic depression a lot and led us to ultimately realize that inflammation in his brain was causing this. That said, I wish I had the $14,000 back so I could use it on less expensive anti-inflammatory products that I now know about. (At the time—2006—it was a huge break through, though.)<br />
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One of the early things that we did for John when he was about 14 was to hire a young male friend (Nathan) whom John looked up to and was into body building to introduce John to body building. We were members of the YMCA and I bought Nathan a membership, too, and paid him $10 an hour to work with John. Later, when John was in high school, he was too uncoordinated to do well at most sports so he signed up for weight lifting for PE. When he graduated and decided he did not want to get fat, he started going to the Y again and started lifting. Eventually, as he recovered from autism, I believe the sweating he did while he was exercising was of great benefit.<br />
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Two important things that I learned were:<br />
1) The senerio in creating autism for us was: the vaccinations (too many, child too small) causes a weakened immune system; the child then get sick--especially ear and respiratory infections; they are taken to the doctor and are prescribed antibiotics; the antibiotics cause a change in the enzymes/bacteria in the gut with an overgrowth of Candida; the small intestines then start having problems digesting foods; the brain then gets an inadequate type of nutrients to develop normally. How severe a child's disability becomes depends upon factors such as their genetic susceptibility, when they got their shots, if they were ill at the time, what type of ingredients were in the shots (most were made by a couple of different companies), etc.<br />
2) Autism, ADD, ADHD, seizures, Aspergers Syndrome, OCD, asthma, etc. are all related and considered "autism spectrum" disorders.<br />
3)There is also toxic ingredients in the vaccinations (called <span class="st"><i>adjuvant</i></span>s) which increase the response but some kids, especially those with lowered immunity, are not able to detoxify this material well and ends up causing them more health issues.<br />
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It just takes so much time to learn what is wrong with each kid/person that it truly takes a village, or in our case, at least a family. We learned quickly that no doctor or practitioner will advocate for your child like the parents. We HAVE to be part of the treatment plan and we quickly learned that we must be the lead for treatment, unlike the old model where the doctor lays out the road map for treatment. We are the ones who observe our child's symptoms, what helps, what doesn't.<br />
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We also learned that allopathic medicine (typical western medicine) is not as effective as natural means. (This was a real surprise as we thought natural medicine was weaker and unreliable.) This means that Naturalpaths, Homeopaths, Chiropracters, and acupuncturists all seem to be able to treat our kids better than the allopaths. The only thing the allopaths seem to do well is order and read tests and surgery which are important.<br />
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In 2000 our family had been in Madison for 2 years (moving from Des Moines, IA). The family consisted of myself, my husband, Ron, and kids, John, 9, and Les, 6. We lived in a home in the Crestwood neighborhood in west Madison, WI. Ron and I both grew up in Wisconsin so we were glad to be back.</div>
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We were still trying to get to know Madison and our neighbors and they were getting to know us. One thing I remember was John's frequent yelling and screaming--horrible mood swings. His condition was not new to us but as these kids grow, their symptoms and actions change--usually for the worse--so I remember John being in the back yard yelling, screaming and being out of control. I was at first horrified that our neighbors would be hearing this private part of our life but I gradually realized that they were also learning what life was like for a family living with autism.<br />
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The antidepressants did not help John that much. His depression cycled—getting better or worse depending upon criteria that we did not understand. Looking back, I think keeping a food journal might possibly have helped. He got more depressed very fast when he was hungry, that was easy to see, but the other components were not easy to figure out. Also, he gained weight from the antidepressants and that made him more depressed and lose self confidence which was almost non existent. </div>
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John also had a significant cognitive delay. He had very poor short term memory and could not understand simple things like tying a knot. Reading and math were very difficult for him. His strengths were that he was a very sweet boy, nice looking, and easy to like. His teachers seemed to want to help him as much as they could.</div>
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John had one friend at school, Brandon, and this was the source of some self esteem for him. At the end of elementary school, however, I was told that he would have a hard time in Middle School at Jefferson because of the way the building was set up. So I got a full time job so we could send John to Walbridge School, a private school for kids with disabilities.</div>
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So John went to Walbridge School for 2 and a half years. During that time, we were not impressed with the school or how John was doing. The quality of his education varied a lot with his teacher. He had developed another friend, Zack, but lost his friendship with Brandon. After these 2+ years, $21,000 poorer, we removed him from Walbridge and enrolled him at Jefferson Middle School as an eighth grader. He was miserable there with no friends but he was used to being miserable so he did not complain.</div>
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He went on to Memorial High after that and, again, was miserable. He hated being around kids who were depressed and also hated being around kids who were happy because he could not be happy—it leaves nothing in between.<br />
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Meanwhile I read parenting books, desperately trying to change into the patient, understanding Mom that they both needed. (This did happen but it took years of work on my part.) </div>
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In the summer of 2006, I happened to google 'autism'. Years prior I had searched and searched for answers to his problems on the web but found nothing I could follow up on. This time, the Generation Rescue website came up first and when I looked at the website, I saw the words, "If you caused a 10,000% increase in autism, wouldn't you try to cover it up?" That was my first introduction to the controversy of vaccinations causing autism and ultimately led me to the biomedical protocol that was being used successfully by many to recover their kids. For more information, see www.autism.com or www.tacanow.org.</div>
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